Mother Forgotten…Parental Alienation











To whom it may concern:

Hello, my name is Bobby Jo Bush, I am a resident of Mt Olive in Wayne County NC.  I am the mother of six grown children and the grandmother of six.  I have always loved kids with a passion as well as the elderly and anyone that needs my help.  I was previously an EMT for our county.  I now live on disability due to a back injury and raise my one year old granddaughter, Arianna, whom I love more than I could ever express in a mere letter.  The following letter is long, yes, but it is of the utmost importance to a young child and I pray that you can take five minutes to read it and hopefully help this family somehow.
Now the reason I have chosen to write you is because about seven years ago I was in a bad relationship and became homeless and a couple I had met while working as a pharmacy tech in Smithfield, NC allowed me to come stay with them.  Mind you these people did not know me beyond my job and I only knew them as customers.  Yet, I went and stayed with this couple for a short time.  During this time I observed that the lady, Tina Mizell Lollis, was having issues with drugs and was in and out of rehab facilities.  This broke my heart because all she talked about was her son and how much she missed him. It was like as long as she had the drugs she was drowning the pain of losing her son, but, at the same time she also knew that the only way she would ever have him again was to get clean.  This was all she was working on and doing.
Fast forward a few years and by the grace of god Tina came back across my pathway and was homeless herself (this was 3 years ago).  She moved in with me this time and I was tickled to death to see that she had gotten clean and had been for almost 3 years at this time.  She was doing really well and had only become homeless due to a bad relationship she had been in.
About two months later my oldest son, Justin, moved home and him and Tina hit it off so extremely well that they have now bought a home across the street from me and Tina (with Justins blessing and help) has been the continued fight for her son Blaine Mizell.
As I learned of this fight again, I became involved in helping her. It began this time with her filing petitions for Modifications of Child Custody with the Nash County courthouse.  I thought this was confusing to me but I learned then that this all began in Nashville at the Nash County Courthouse because she had resided there when it began and so did the father of her son, Christopher Dawes.  Also in this scenario, and the most important factor, were the paternal grandparents, Claudia and James Mull.  Why are they the most important factor you ask? Well, because Mrs. Claudia Mull was the Director of Personnel for Nash County Social Services!!! Can you say biased!!!! Well from what I have no gathered and learned, Tina gave guardianship of her son when he was four to her mother so that she could freely go into a rehab and attempt to get clean.  At this time Mrs Mull took full grasp of the situation and took Tina to court and was actually given CUSTODY of her son.  Tina and the father were given supervised visitations with each to be supervised by their respective parents.  Now, none of this sounds right at all to me as a parent.  Shouldn’t this Director of Social Services stepped in and assisted this woman in getting the medical attention she needed then also helped her in reuniting with her son? NO! This woman who was biased because this was HER GRANDSON used her political pull and influence in Nash County to take another mothers child from her!!!!!!!
Now during the years that Tinas son has been supposedly in the care of Claudia Mull this woman has allowed her drug and alcohol abusing son, Christopher Dawes, to take Tinas son and move first to Bryson City without notifying Tina nor going back to court, then most recently all the way to Tennessee!!! Again, no notice or court proceedings at all.  Tina has done nothing wrong and continues her fight.  She went back to court to ask for Modification of Child Custody when she finally found out her son was in Tennessee. At this time she was told they all, the Mull’s included would have to go thru mediation.  Tina went to these mediations and neither of the Mulls showed up at all.  We then went before Judge Britt who would recused himself due to his wife, whom is a lawyer in Nash County, being the lawyer that assisted Tina in the very beginning so it was a conflict of interest.  Before Judge Britt closed out this hearing though he COMMANDED in an order for the Mull’s to go to the mediation proceedings that Tina had been going to or be held in contempt.  The next court date was set and when we went we were before Judge Farris.  Judge Farris was aware of Judge Britts order concerning the mediation but did NOTHING to the Mull’s for not showing up! Can we say something smells here to?  Now, Judge Farris had Tina and Claudia Mull before him.  James Mull DID NOT show up again!  Judge Farris heard both sides and even heard Claudia Mull say she did not want Tinas son and had given him to his father because “She could not handle him any longer”.  Now I ask you, when court orders are in place giving a grandparent custodial rights and the obligation to care and look after their grandson should they not have to go back to court and have other arrangments made if they can not handle him any longer and dont want him?  I was under the impression that court orders were pretty stuck in concrete and that if you didnt follow them you were held to account and possible jail time.  Not with Mrs Director of Nash County Social Services though.  Now, as this court hearing ended a parental agreement was put into place that had been discussed and put into play during mediation even though NOT ONCE did the childs father, Christopher Dawes, go tho any mediation classes with Claudia and Tina.  Tina had signed this agreement out of desperation to see her son and then asked to have it resended due to her not agreeing and wanting custody of her son. Philip Wall, the court mediator conveniently neglected to pull this agreement and it was sent to Christopher Dawes in TN and then onto Judge Farris where it was put into play at this court date.  Now, on May 30th Christopher Dawes dropped off Tinas son, Blaine at her moms in Nashville and Tina was called to come get him.  Blaine has been across the road with my son and Tina since then and up until August 13th.  Now let me tell you what has happened since then.  About two weeks prior to the date that Christopher Dawes and Tina decided to switch Blaine back, Blaine told Tinas sister Toni that he was scared to go back.  He described in detail some very serious abusive incidents that concerned Toni.  Toni then called Tina and Tina spoke with Blaine then called Wayne County DSS looking for help for her son.  Mind you the next court date for the child custody is on August 28th. Well we went to court on the 13th and the Clerk of Court lady, April, took Tinas file up to a Judge Cooper.  We went and sat in the courtroom at 1030am.  We observed the judge hearing cases and every so often getting up and going into chambers where we later found out he was talking to Nash County DSS, Wayne County DSS and Edgecombe DSS concerning Tina and Blaine.  We also saw him taking many calls concerning the case on his personal cell phone though out the day. We sat scared and worried as this was the day Blaine was to go back to his abuser also.  We were flying by the seats of our pants and it was getting scarier by the minute.  We were finally called up at 330pm AFTER every other case that day had been heard.  Judge Cooper had called Edgecombe county social worker Ms. Goodloe to come to court also.  The judge listened to a witness which was also a previous live in girlfriend of Chris Dawes as she described the abuse she had witnessed to Blaine and then talked to Tina.  Never once did he speak to me nor to Blaine and we were both there.  He went out and then when he came back in we were to get the most horrible shock I ever imagined.  Judge Cooper ordered Edgecombe county to TAKE Blaine and place him BACK into the care of the Mull’s, the same people that gave him to the abuser willingly and the same people that told Judge Farris that they did not want him.  Now can you say CONFUSED!!! As I sat there listening to this insane decision I asked to be heard by Judge Cooper and at that time requested to be considered as a place for Blaine instead if he was going to take him till the 28th court date.  I was basically ignored.  We stood outside the court that day hurt and lost.  Blaine walked away from the social worker and came out the front door as we stood there. He immediately wrapped up with Tina and cried and didnt understand.  We did our best to tell him it would be ok and we didnt understand either but we would make sure he was home in a few days, that was 7 days ago.  While Blaine has been with the Mull’s this time Tina was told by the social worker and Judge that she could talk to Blaine everyday and have contact with  him.  Claudia Mull has not allowed this on so many occasions.  Tina has even called Nash County PD and had a welfare check done at the Mull’s due to Claudia not allowing her to even speak with her son.  The officer called Tina back and told her how the Mull’s blocked the door and would not even allow her to speak to Blaine!!  Nothing ever gets done with these people!! Edgecombe county DSS is now coming into Tinas home and MINE to do investigations!!! We have been subjected to lies that they deny when we question and are being told what we need to have in our homes for Blaine to even come back.  NOONE has done this at the Mull’s!  The social worker has told us how because of Tinas past with drugs this was all done and how they, DSS, was never suppose to have custody of the child that they never wanted to be involved that the judge messed up was her exact words.  She claimed that the judge was suppose to just be giving the Mull’s temporary custody. Now we have found out that the Mull’s have enrolled Blaine in school there already and have taken him out of town to the beach WITH THE FATHER, CHRISTOPHER DAWES.  There is a protection order also in affect against Christopher Dawes for Blaine that was given at the same date he was given back to the Mull’s.  In this order Chris is not to have any contact at all with Blaine nor be around him!! HMMMMM again huh.  Now Tina is tore apart and hurting everyday without her son and scared constantly for his safety.  The 28th can not get here any faster and I am praying somehow someway God will touch someone and maybe she can get a fair hearing this time but my hopes are not good for that.
I know this is alot of information and I am sorry but someone out there needs to know what is going on in Nash County and stand up for whats right.  I pray that somehow this gets to a person that can help us and if nothing more get this out there for some lawyer to help as Tina nor I can afford to hire one and the judges in Nash County have made it clear that without one they do not respect her nor really wish to acknowledge what she is trying to do for her son.

I am available everyday if someone would like to talk to me or Tina and there is alot of stuff that happened before I got in the picture but Tina has been done so unfairly in Nash County court system and I know she is willing to open a can of worms there if necessary to protect and get her son back home where he belongs.

Thank you in advance for any assistance you can help with!!!

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I have some serious issues that must be addressed concerning Judge Cooper,Edgecombe/ Nash DSS, myself and my minor child. I should tell you that myself and my son’s father (Christopher Dawes) are due in court in Nash County on the 28th of this month for a custody hearing. We have a parenting agreement that I attempted several times to legally rescind my signature off of through our court mediator, Phillip Wall. He still stands that he did not understand what I was saying. Per the agreement the father has primary custody and I have secondary custody. My son disclosed to me and several family members that he had been being abused by his father while in his care. A witness also came forth who was present at the time of this abuse. I have discovered that Chris was told that he could sign his rights away or that Swain County DSS would terminate them on the spot (due to domestic violence , drug abuse and alcohol abuse), he signed. So I did what any mother would do, I filed for an Ex-Parte Order of Protection on behalf of my son. The Order was granted to myself and my son….now the kicker. In previous court proceedings from our custody case in 2005, the judge placed my son with his paternal grandparents, temporarily until we go to court on the 28th. The paternal grandmother (Claudia Mull) is the retired Director of Personnel for NASH COUNTY DSS. She is also the one who handed my son over to his abuser in 2009 and again in 2010. All while ewe had a standing, still in effect Court Order of Supervised Visitation for myself and the father in each of our parents homes. Never once did she take me to court to stop my visits, she just sent my son away, once to Bryson City and then to the state of Tennessee.. And now I am being investigated by Edgecombe County DSS (Loretta Goodloe, Ms. Whitehurst) and Wayne County DSS (Lethea Burns), all because I BELIEVE my son has been being abused by his father and took action before I was supposed to take him back to his father. I do have a copy of the Order of Protection, but it is pretty much null and viod because Ms. Goodloe and Claudia have signed some sort of Supervision Plan that allows Christopher Dawes to be around my son ( and based on past experience in NASH Co Court) she can just hand him right back over to be abused. But me, the mother who is doing everything under the sun…I am not even allowed to speak with my child or see my child, while I am the who got the Order of Protection fro him.
I do not know how to get a change of venue and I suspect that even if I tried, it would not be allowed. I WILL NEVER GET A FAIR HEARING in Nash County.My case is tainted by my past and that is all they look at when it comes to me, while she is retired from DSS ( so that makes her look spotless and like she can do no wrong, but she blatantly and willfully continues to violate Court Order after Court Order and the Judges say that she IS NOT PARTY TO THE CASE. I even had a deputy, Officer Spivey of Nashville PD leave a message on my phone telling me that I was causing disruption in the family and that everyone knows the family and that the PD WAS NOT going to do a welfare check on my son everyday. My son is now supposedly at some beach with his grandparents and I have expressed my concerns to the case worker and her supervisor, they continually blow me off. I told MS. Whitehurst that if ANYTHING happened to my son or if the father ran with my son that I was going to personally sue her.

All the decisions were based on my past from 2005, when I was using illegal substances. I have been clean for going on 6 years now, I have letters from an ex-probation officer that I still to this day keep in contact with, my daughter’s adoptive parents that I have know for 16 years, my mother who states in a notarized paper how dirty I’ve been done, and a letter from the father’s previous landlords in Tn about his character, his drinking and parenting skills. Also one of my son’s teachers had to buy him shoes last , while in the custody of his father, because his father would not. I need some serious help and I cannot afford a lawyer. I have been representing myself for the past several years. Can you please help me.

Judge Cooper brought DSS into all this mess. He IS NOT protecting my son!!!!!

PLEASE HELP ME PROTECT SON FROM THESE PEOPLE. There is so much more…Parental Alientation being at the top of the list. This summer was the first time in 7 years I had my son and he cried and cried not to go back, he posts on facebook that he misses me, when they let him get on. They won’t even let him use the phone to call me.

I do not have all the case file, as it will cost me at least $150 or more but I have attached what I do have and it is the most recent. Custody case file is 02-CVD-1041 and the EX-Parte Order is 12-CVD-1363



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